Question
 

OK, I SUBMITTED A LETTER THE OTHER DAY ABOUT THE MARRIED POLICE OFFICER I AM IN LOVE WITH AND I WAS JUST WONDERING IF I SOULD GIVE HIM AN ULTIMATIUM ABOUT THIS SITUATION, LIKE EITHER HE LEAVES HIS WIFE LIKE HE SAYS HE IS GOING TO OR I AM GONE, BECAUSE HE SAYS HE LOVES ME TOO AND THAT HE ISN'T HAPPILY MARRIED BUT ITS HIS KIDS KEEPING HIM MARRIED THIS LONG. SO WHAT SHOULD I DO ABOUT THAT?
-- BRITTANY (NEEDS HELP)

Advice

Brittany, What are you doing? Do you really think that this would be a relationship that would last, regardless of his marital status? This guy tells you that he will leave his wife for you, right. So what makes you think that he wouldn't find someone else after the two of you are together? I know-it's going to be different with you...will it? If he is willing to step on the trust that a marriage should hold sacred, what kind of man can he be? Will you ever be able to truly trust him? There is also another very important factor to consider here: the kids. Let's say that he does leave his wife for you, have you considered that his children will probably have a great deal of contempt for the woman who stole daddy? You will probably also have to deal with his ex-wife on an on-going basis for child visitation-not to mention for school matters, health issues, sports, etc. Messing with a married person presents a very slippery slope, I just hope that you consider all of the potential issues and don't find yourself slidding to the bottom of a very deep pit. I wish you the best.